Aah, the “sexual revolution”. Better described as the sexual devolution: boys get free sex, girls get screwed. God designed sex as the physical aspect of one flesh, in marriage, together no matter what, for procreation rather than recreation. Sex outside of marriage is ultimately self seeking: men get pleasure without commitment, women seek relationship but with an “escape clause”: contract rather than covenant; he gets to leave when he gets “tired of you”, or with conflict, or when a “better” woman comes along; she gets pain, emptiness, regret, and seeks another “relationship” using sex, again. Ultimately it develops cynicism, and a pattern of leaving when things get tough, greatly increasing the risk of divorce after marriage. Short-term gain, after a fashion, long term pain.
All true. And as we raise our kids, we need a way to communicate to them, that even if they mess up and choose the wrong path, God is able to restore and redeem. Otherwise, the enemy will get a foothold into their hearts and whisper, “You’ve gone too far. You’re damaged forever.”
((also? I forwarded it to Rachel Welcher who's a friend here on Substack (and a poet and a writer and an editor....) and who wrote her own book "Talking Back to Purity Culture." Maybe you know it?))
Sandy, this is such a refreshing take on sexual purity. I wish I had heard more of this when my kids were growing up. I wish I had understood this when I was growing up!!!
I’m so grateful for the rescuing grace of God that redeems and restores my sexual brokenness. And, thankfully, even has the power to redeem and restore the broken messages I passed on to my kids.
Keep sharing your beautiful words with the world!! ♥️
Thanks, friend. There is so much shame cast on young men and women. I know it comes from a combination of love and fear—we understand that sexual sin has consequences and we are trying to protect them from doing something they will regret. But in doing so, we end up sending them the message that God can’t redeem and restore us after our mistakes.
Aah, the “sexual revolution”. Better described as the sexual devolution: boys get free sex, girls get screwed. God designed sex as the physical aspect of one flesh, in marriage, together no matter what, for procreation rather than recreation. Sex outside of marriage is ultimately self seeking: men get pleasure without commitment, women seek relationship but with an “escape clause”: contract rather than covenant; he gets to leave when he gets “tired of you”, or with conflict, or when a “better” woman comes along; she gets pain, emptiness, regret, and seeks another “relationship” using sex, again. Ultimately it develops cynicism, and a pattern of leaving when things get tough, greatly increasing the risk of divorce after marriage. Short-term gain, after a fashion, long term pain.
All true. And as we raise our kids, we need a way to communicate to them, that even if they mess up and choose the wrong path, God is able to restore and redeem. Otherwise, the enemy will get a foothold into their hearts and whisper, “You’ve gone too far. You’re damaged forever.”
So, so good..... wise and kind and like Jesus. Thank you.
Thanks friend. That’s about the highest compliment you could give me.
((also? I forwarded it to Rachel Welcher who's a friend here on Substack (and a poet and a writer and an editor....) and who wrote her own book "Talking Back to Purity Culture." Maybe you know it?))
Sandy, this is such a refreshing take on sexual purity. I wish I had heard more of this when my kids were growing up. I wish I had understood this when I was growing up!!!
I’m so grateful for the rescuing grace of God that redeems and restores my sexual brokenness. And, thankfully, even has the power to redeem and restore the broken messages I passed on to my kids.
Keep sharing your beautiful words with the world!! ♥️
Thanks, friend. There is so much shame cast on young men and women. I know it comes from a combination of love and fear—we understand that sexual sin has consequences and we are trying to protect them from doing something they will regret. But in doing so, we end up sending them the message that God can’t redeem and restore us after our mistakes.